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Hello my reader, I know you are probably used to read most of my articles being based on relationships, dating and ‘breakups’.I think changing the recipe just for today, wouldn’t be bad at all.

It takes a lot of sacrifice, hard work and perseverance to find the perfect something worthwhile to keep a lifetime.The reason as to why am saying this :Times have changed love is no longer what it used to be,people have become sharp and especially when distance is involved between loved ones,playing safe is definitely a priority.And to the people who come from the ‘sensitivity world’ feeling insecure becomes a daily web.

Talking of sensitivity i know some of you have no idea of what it means.Okay ever found yourself mad at someone simply because they didn’t reply your text messages immediately and yet they were online?Leave alone that,Do you get issues with trusting people who taken ages to call back after 4 or 5 missed calls? If your answer is yes to all of the questions above,you are definitely sailing in a boat of ‘sensitivity world’.What you swallow your  insecurities and begin of something like,

“Maybe they he/she is engaged in something important”

“Probably they left their phone at home or they are asleep”

Having such conclusions might help you avoid a lot of things.Try it sometime and your love life will be fun.

Enough of that, I now you are here to know about  perfect partner but to tell you the  truth there’s no such thing as ‘Perfect partner’ but am glad you are here to hear, what i have to tell you.

You need to understand  one important thing whenever you think of loving, dating or even marrying or getting married to someone; “One man’s meat  is another man’s poison”.Yeah! Your baby ‘mamma’  can’t be best to another guy,but she means the world to you.Your dark,tall and handsome(DTH) guy doesn’t mean the whole world to every girl.So do you get my point? Perfect partners don’t exist,they are made.Love your partner and bring out the best in them.

No matter how much you try to work things out, as long as you listen to your sensitivity,the perfect partner you are looking for might never come your way.And if at all they will come your way, you will never be able to notice them.First of all don’t give up-Embrace the daring character but don’t let it kill your confidence.The reason as to why am saying all these is because most people suffer heart-break and lose confidence of loving again.To others it’s no heartbreak,only a few disappointments and you feel like not trying anymore.You will lose a lot.

There are things that  you need to note very key and vital in every bond.As i always say, never get obsessed.Love someone  just as they are.obsessions are limited and with time they fade away.

I wouldn’t like to leave you with the curiosity of how to get a perfect patner.Just a few points to note.If you are a lady,find a guy who will be honest 24/7. A guy who isn’t driven by lust  and will be willing to listen to your opinions when necessary.You’ve heard me say: ‘Matters of the heart  can never be compromised’ Exaclty!. It is therefore very necessary to make a foundation that is based on no lust, a guarantee to a long lasting love story.

To the guys can’t forget you.Please note that there is always something great in a girl who doesn’t admire everything. A girl who is a guarantee of patience and something real.Even though this type of girls are rare, they actually do exist.They admire something specific, something unique in a guy. I mean something off the normal clique and even if you lose everything and remain with your life, They stick by you.Love you till eternity.Let such girls be your desire.

Now do you think you have a perfect partner?

Xoxo.

See you next time.

Send your reply below.

They say that “time heals every wound”  but  I personally tend to differ with this most commonly used quote.In fact I believe that this  phrase is sometimes used to blindfold people from the reality that; “what is meant to be will always be“.Okay let me bring my opinion into the limelight.Supposed you love someone, too much  and definitely if you’ve ever been in love you understand what   I mean by “loving someone too much”.This  is the kind of  love where  you get to a point of feeling like you can sacrifice your own peace just for your companion to be at peace.You  even  feel like withdrawing  all the good relations you have with anyone else just to be with them.And if at all they disappoint your feelings,you have no clue of how to survive without them.I know that this isn’t fictional.It’s the reality and this things happens and probably or maybe you are a victim.But  to the people who don’t believe in love probably that sounds stupid but it is the reality.Enough of that let’s get back to the main piece of cake.

Many people jump into relationships without considering whether they are truly ready to be in one.They get caught up in the excitement and giddiness of dating and fail to consider whether  the relationship is right for them at that point and time.This can be a recipe for disaster especially if one falls in love out of obsessions.To be much clearer, in this millennium most people fall in love due to physical considerations.Some get obsessed with the so-called ‘cleavages’, six packs, puffy beards, tattoos , height dogmatism, ‘tiny waist butterflies’, voice charming and the many other things that you know.This dangerous if you didn’t know.

I definitely know that we are all never the same nevertheless apologies if this sounds as a mass approach of things.But truth be told before any other considerations the two hearts have to click into the same password.And if you ask me why?’ I’d tell you  some people have suffered most  heart-break due to this obsessions.Another reason why people get into  so many relationships without settling  in one is the habit of refusing to get over their past.Unresolved issues will always pile up and unless you let go the things of yesterday,you’ll always be stuck and unable to get into better things.

With all that,do you now understand there’s nothing like ‘Time heals every wound’.There’s never a wound to be healed.The problem is always  ‘YOU’.Yeah! ‘you’.

if you want to settle for what’s coming tomorrow, let go of  what is holding you back today.Because what is meant to be will always be.Love is strong enough to bring them back.

TO WIN,YOU HAVE TO LOSE.

See you next time.Xoxo

Am not tall enough,you have to step on my toes for a hug.

Am not too strong,you want me to carry you whenever you feel tired.

Am not big enough,you have to punch me for fun.

Am not that cute,you have to break my neck for a selfie.

Am not sure if I dance well enough,you want us to be ballerinas…..

Such a dummy you are,my dummy ha ha

Am not a muscular button,you keep on pinching  my bony biceps.

Your hands feel lonely without holding mine.

But all in all guess what, I Am Because You Are.

Until we become  grey and old,I’ll be here forever.

MY PANDA