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It feels nice to have someone who loves you. Sweet someone who not only loves you but gives you the confidence of ‘Love is a beautiful thing‘. Am talking of a spouse that knows almost every side of your coin. Someone who keeps off all of their issues and decides to work things with you. Someone who keeps your flames lightened from the first day you meet them to eternity.And whenever your flaws want to take over, they know how to handle them.

(BUT). Did you hear what i just said BUT it feels so horrible to have someone who doesn’t even worry about you for once. Someone who makes you feel unwanted, worthless and at some point you begin hating yourself. Whether they see you or not they’d still be fine.People who makes us shed tears because of being so much into them. Am not talking about family relations am talking of love. A four letter word that has greatness in it. It  has taken me  years to believe in it. And even though i believe in it, i don’t just rush into whatever comes my way. That aside.

To the heartbroken out  there- To the guys in relationships with partners who don’t appreciate them, my prayer is that your eyes open soon. And you begin to understand love leveled on a rough ground never smooth-ens in the future. May your eyes open – find a spouse that will appreciate you and if you are a lady be patient wait for a guy- best for you. And even if you find one before time, give him the confidence that he is the one.

I keep on repeating that matters of the heart can’t be complicated. That’s quite simple to mean that there’s no way you’d be in a sucking relationship and still be like,

“I’m persevering to my best”

Hell no!! Don’t persevere more that enough. Are you Jesus???  I know am firm believer of advising people to hold on their loved ones but please and i repeat it, please don’t be a skunk in the whole thing. Find time ask honest questions, analyze the feedback, get into a personal-consultation and if it suits you do what’s best for you. The reality still stands  what is meant to be will do what?…… exactly.

Loving someone ain’t easy.Keeping them needs a lot of commitment. Breaking up with them might cost you a lot.Here’s my free advice, if you love someone, dedicate yourself until you can’t feel it anymore.You might have been heartbroken before but don’t let that intimidate you.Yeah! Be strong. Love your spouse like never before.Embrace their flaws.Keep their secrets and make sure you insure their insecurities.If you guys have an argument, sit down talk like matured people. Relationships ain’t all about kisses and cuddles. In-fact i’d better tell you the truth that some relationships will never see the threshold of marriage so stop acting like you are married to someone or married someone.It’s just a relationship and the stronger you become in it, the more chances you’ll have to survive your marriage.So grow your love as much as you can.Not by experiencing it from a mass of ‘exes’ but by learning how to be patient enough in your lows and tides.

Love is real but only when you find the perfect you in another person. #food_for_thought……

See you next time.

Xoxo.

“Loving you was the best thing that ever happened to me.” She texted

“Breaking my heart was the worst emotional humiliation that I never wish to have again.” I replied.

If you are reading this, I definitely know that you have an idea of how such conversations sail.It might have happened to you, a friend, a relative or you have probably seen it in the movies especially the soap operas.The pain of a break-up.

We all want to be in an ‘everlasting’ relationship.Something that begins at little chuckles of ‘can we become friends?’ Crawls into ‘I love you’.I mean love that leads us into ‘will you marry me?’ and goes all the way to walking down the aisle just to say  ‘for better for worse’.A relationship that lasts long enough leaving everyone with a fairytale  ‘….and they lived happily ever after.Something that begins from sunrise and goes till sunset. ‘Isn’t that everyone’s desire? To the many of us, it’s a desire to be fulfilled.But lemme remind you something important; ‘True love isn’t based on butterflies in the stomach or seeing the world move in slow-motion while music plays in the background.True love is being concerned about your partner’s well-being , regardless of what you have to do’.Point taken home.

In my articles I just love flowing with the reality.Fiction is never my thing.I love bringing my readers into the limelight of the truth.The reality of what true love is. Well am not flexible in everything about love but with a combination of what I feel, my past experiences and the things I know, I believe you might grab one or two things that will help you for a lifetime.Maybe not today but someday in life.Talking of breaking up with someone.Just by the mention of it, i know a lot has crossed your mind right now.Cold chills have dropped down your spine. You’ve probably imagined of how  it happened to you or just in case it hasn’t happened to you, you are trying to imagine how you’d survive it.When hell breaks loose. Right? Don’t worry, ‘SHIT’ happens.I was once told the same and i didn’t want to believe it until one day the reality unfolded before me.There’s nothing i could do about it other than brushing the dust off and thrill on.Though it took me ages and time. I changed completely.Yeah! Changed I for a lifetime but  I guess am not the only one in this world isn’t it?.It’s life though. Enough of that.

Loving someone ain’t easy.Keeping them needs a lot of commitment. Breaking up with them might cost you a lot.Here’s my free advice, if you love someone, dedicate yourself until you can’t feel it anymore.You might have been heartbroken before but don’t let that intimidate you.Yeah! Be strong.Love your spouse like never before.Embrace their flaws.Keep their secrets and make sure you insure their insecurities.If you guys have an argument, sit down talk like matured people. Relationships ain’t all about kisses and cuddles.Infact i better tell you the truth that some relationships will never see the threshold of marriage so stop acting like you are married to someone or married someone.It’s just a relationship and the stronger you become in it, the more chances you’ll have to survive your marriage.So grow your love as much as you can.Not by experiencing it from a mass of ‘exes’ but by learning how to be patient enough in your lows and tides.

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Did you get that? Don’t be too busy to listen to each others issues.Be there at times.In case you didn’t know the easiest way to kill a relationship and I keep telling people the same is lack of communication. The moment you guys have issues and you act dumb not to care, that’s a loophole  underway.Talk to him or her. Find time.Plan things together.Don’t be a pig that thinks about chocolates and food 24/7.Sometimes be a serious face.Talking of a serious face I didn’t mean that you frown.Not really.Learn to embrace maturity sometimes.Be a man with limits.Be the woman without limits.Are you really getting this?

Lastly you’ve got to understand people fall in love the same way people fall in love with food.First rejecting the unfamiliar, then everyday craving for the same thing.When you are in love, you hardly see your mistakes. Fact.Someone will try to tell you something helpful and you’ll be like,

“Just let me be,I know what am doing. Am matured enough?”

Well, we all know you are matured enough but believe me a little advice from someone mature enough wouldn’t do you any harm.Just swallow your pride, sit down and listen.Everyone wants whats best for you.So, if advice comes your way, grab what’s good enough for you and appreciate.

I understand that things work out differently to everyone, some of us will  have to go through a series of relationships before marriage and others will be lucky enough to settle down in one for a lifetime.It’s the wretched world, things happen differently.But whichever the case,whenever you get yourself into a relationship,Give it your best.Love harder.Whoever you meet in life let them feel that meeting you was the best thing  that ever happened in their life.Never break an innocent heart that will be the worst emotional humiliation ever.

See you.

Xoxo♥

Many are the times that we find ourselves in the crossroads of how to keep our relationships sailing till the ultimatum of ‘marriage’.Some people say,

‘i am just having fun and enjoying my youth, marriage comes after 20’s.

Well you might be right on that because it’s your own life and no one needs to control it.But ever asked yourself how many people mess you up on the way? And if you are a guy,the many hearts you will break before then? Girls break hearts too though countable times.First of all I’d tell you as a love affairs follower: Don’t ever love someone just because you want them, Love them because you feel it they are more than enough. Ok! I know you didn’t get that right and if I repeat it you won’t then try to get this,

‘lOVE isn’t the only thing that matters in life but apparently it is the only thing that makes us good people, just by how we care and treat people tells a lot about who we are.’ #Foodforthought.

Let that sink deep.So whenever you get yourself into something like love, then be prepared to commit yourself fully.And if by any chance your relationship isn’t focused on ending at tying the knot, my friend quit it as soon as possible because that’s violation of love itself.I know that shocks you but if you can’t swallow your pride and here me, you’ll always keep on counting ‘exes’,heartbreak and that will make you inferior into ever-loving someone strongly.

On the contrary with the legalisation of same-sex marriage,things have gotten sore especially to we writers of articles based on love,relationships,breakups and marriage because we focus on love based on opposite sex.However not to say much on that,same rules apply irrespective of whatever bond.Love comes before anything else.Chapter closed.

Talking of Love not Lust, you’ve probably heard of someone break up with their spouse because of intimacy issues,sleepover and even being denied kisses.You all hear this things even in the media.Right? Well pay attention and if you are a victim I’ve got your back.I’m not talking of marriage case am actually basing my article to the guys who are dating, courting, in a relationship or engaged. To precise guys who have boyfie, girlfie,  bae, boo, panda, munchkins, pookies, swee or even a fiance or a fiancée but still don’t know the burden of paying dowry. Hahahaha!

It is very important to know that being in a relationship or even an engagement is far much different from being in a marriage.And when i say far much, then just keep sinking  it that the two are two different things.A relationship is based on so many foundations, first you become a friend to someone, you guys graduate into more than just friends, then you begin to court one another, courting come in various packages but no matter what,you stick to the rule of keeping respect.It is in courting where one feels like yeah!..i think he/she is “More than enough”.Then finally that grabs you into dating or just to cut the formalities, a relationship.

Now lemme ask, Do you think you are on the right track?Or you just woke up one day met someone, boom fell in love at first sight  and life goes on?…I think you have the answer to youself.However whichever the case as i always say. “….matters of the heart can never complicated..” what I mean is, don’t let time deceive you that simply because you’ve known someone for a longer time they are good enough for you.Not really.You might meet someone in a few minutes and your love  life changes completely..Yeah it happens.That’s what flames of love do,  they consume things around them.

I hope I have clarified that courting,dating, relationships and engagements are  a threshold to marriage and therefore nothing should be done inappropriately. And one important tip, marriage is based on laws and at times traditions and customs  of the land unlike relationships which sharpen us into marriage.In relationships people break up whenever they feel like,one might get into more than five relationships in a year but for divorce to happen, legal proceedings are followed and if at all there is negligence of  responsibility, one might suffer a jail term.

So you leave someone because he/ she denies you……………………………….

To be continued