“Loving you was the best thing that ever happened to me.” She texted
“Breaking my heart was the worst emotional humiliation that I never wish to have again.” I replied.
If you are reading this, I definitely know that you have an idea of how such conversations sail.It might have happened to you, a friend, a relative or you have probably seen it in the movies especially the soap operas.The pain of a break-up.
We all want to be in an ‘everlasting’ relationship.Something that begins at little chuckles of ‘can we become friends?’ Crawls into ‘I love you’.I mean love that leads us into ‘will you marry me?’ and goes all the way to walking down the aisle just to say ‘for better for worse’.A relationship that lasts long enough leaving everyone with a fairytale ‘….and they lived happily ever after.Something that begins from sunrise and goes till sunset. ‘Isn’t that everyone’s desire? To the many of us, it’s a desire to be fulfilled.But lemme remind you something important; ‘True love isn’t based on butterflies in the stomach or seeing the world move in slow-motion while music plays in the background.True love is being concerned about your partner’s well-being , regardless of what you have to do’.Point taken home.
In my articles I just love flowing with the reality.Fiction is never my thing.I love bringing my readers into the limelight of the truth.The reality of what true love is. Well am not flexible in everything about love but with a combination of what I feel, my past experiences and the things I know, I believe you might grab one or two things that will help you for a lifetime.Maybe not today but someday in life.Talking of breaking up with someone.Just by the mention of it, i know a lot has crossed your mind right now.Cold chills have dropped down your spine. You’ve probably imagined of how it happened to you or just in case it hasn’t happened to you, you are trying to imagine how you’d survive it.When hell breaks 
loose. Right? Don’t worry, ‘SHIT’ happens.I was once told the same and i didn’t want to believe it until one day the reality unfolded before me.There’s nothing i could do about it other than brushing the dust off and thrill on.Though it took me ages and time. I changed completely.Yeah! Changed I for a lifetime but I guess am not the only one in this world isn’t it?.It’s life though. Enough of that.
Loving someone ain’t easy.Keeping them needs a lot of commitment. Breaking up with them might cost you a lot.Here’s my free advice, if you love someone, dedicate yourself until you can’t feel it anymore.You might have been heartbroken before but don’t let that intimidate you.Yeah! Be strong.Love your spouse like never before.Embrace their flaws.Keep their secrets and make sure you insure their insecurities.If you guys have an argument, sit down talk like matured people. Relationships ain’t all about kisses and cuddles.Infact i better tell you the truth that some relationships will never see the threshold of marriage so stop acting like you are married to someone or married someone.It’s just a relationship and the stronger you become in it, the more chances you’ll have to survive your marriage.So grow your love as much as you can.Not by experiencing it from a mass of ‘exes’ but by learning how to be patient enough in your lows and tides.
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Did you get that? Don’t be too busy to listen to each others issues.Be there at times.In case you didn’t know the easiest way to kill a relationship and I keep telling people the same is lack of communication. The moment you guys have issues and you act dumb not to care, that’s a loophole underway.Talk to him or her. Find time.Plan things together.Don’t be a pig that thinks about chocolates and food 24/7.Sometimes be a serious face.Talking of a serious face I didn’t mean that you frown.Not really.Learn to embrace maturity sometimes.Be a man with limits.Be the woman without limits.Are you really getting this?
Lastly you’ve got to understand people fall in love the same way people fall in love with food.First rejecting the unfamiliar, then everyday craving for the same thing.When you are in love, you hardly see your mistakes. Fact.Someone will try to tell you something helpful and you’ll be like,
“Just let me be,I know what am doing. Am matured enough?”
Well, we all know you are matured enough but believe me a little advice from someone mature enough wouldn’t do you any harm.Just swallow your pride, sit down and listen.Everyone wants whats best for you.So, if advice comes your way, grab what’s good enough for you and appreciate.
I understand that things work out differently to everyone, some of us will have to go through a series of relationships before marriage and others will be lucky enough to settle down in one for a lifetime.It’s the wretched world, things happen differently.But whichever the case,whenever you get yourself into a relationship,Give it your best.Love harder.Whoever you meet in life let them feel that meeting you was the best thing that ever happened in their life.Never break an innocent heart that will be the worst emotional humiliation ever.
See you.
Xoxo♥
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