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Over and over you will struggle to deal with people,
And up and until you learn how to know genuine people, you will continue to be in the struggle.
It’s easy to know better,
Genuine people don’t make you struggle to be someone you are not,
Infact people who are true to you help you to become the person you want to be.
And not the person they want you to be.
Yes!
They will want you to work a little extra harder not for them, but for you.
It won’t matter whether you fit into their preferences or not,
Genuine people for you, will want you to achieve the better version of you.
So if you are sorrounded by people who keep on pressuring to be someone you don’t want to be – EXIT!
Because that’s not where you are supposed to be.
I stand to be corrected if I am in anyway wrong about it.
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Genuine people don’t make you struggle to be someone you are not,

Instead of seeing red flags in your partner and backing off,
Shape them to the person you want them to be. And yes! You can’t change a whole adult but you can tell them your likes, interests and things that turn you off. Am not saying twill be easy but for partners who want things to work, there will be always a point of equilibrium. A point where both of you meet in agreement. Create a capacity of pointing out red flags without making your partner feel less. Be so connected to a point that, correcting your partner won’t come out as “being jugdy.”

There are days you will feel like walking away. And Yes! maybe to your own judgement it’s the right thing to do – but before you do that it’s important to ask yourself sober questions.

“If I walk away today does my partner see it worth it as I see it from my angle too?”

“Am I the only one who wants to walk away or both of us feel better off each other?”

“Does this involve just ‘Us’ or there’s a third-party
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“Am I walking away because I want this to work and it’s not or because I don’t want it to work?”

These are so many questions to consider before making an ultimate decision. And now back to where I began, “Instead of seeing red flags in your partner and backing off” – Ask yourself if you addressed the red flags and did they try changing.
Yours Truly
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Am a bit old school,
I like old classical hits,-
Khakis and vintage fabrics,
Am into ancient furniture,-
Cups that come in with saucepans and kettles,
Patterned marts and canvas paints –
I like my belt rugged and slender,
I groove better in slow beats like salsa, forro and ballads,
Satins, dolly shoes and ponytails drive me crazy,
Pearls, pocketed skirts prove me oldskool.

I like my coffee black,
My eggs scrambled,
I do my laundry by colors,
Am into hangers, wooden boxes, candles, lampshades, radio cassettes,-
Beaded bracelets and necklaces,
I like my shoes round tipped.
My tie slightly above the belt.
Walks, sunsets & late nights.
I always remember safety belts.

I like my answers Yes/No,
My mood sober,
I do my conversations closed,
My introverted sides come out extroverted,
My love line stays grafted,
I like my wounds salted before iodined,
My T-shirts collared,
My trousers hemmed,
My buttons doubled,
My shirts Chinese.
Am earthly.

Am into handshakes and limited hugs,
Undiluted gospel of the old rugged cross.

Am into love before beauty,
Beauty before make-up,
Make-up before self-esteem.
Am into love & life,
Poetry, literature and diaries.
Spoke words & written word.
Am into it all.
And all into me.

Am just me,
I don’t try to be old school,
Maybe my old-school style comes out as “Me” being just “Me”
Yours Truly.
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