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A call to break the cycle ⛓️‍💥

Everyone has a cycle or a pattern in their life. Once you get to know or realize the patterns that are in your life, it becomes so much easier for you to overcome them.

In some families, people don’t go far in education. Some drop out, or even when someone is just about to graduate, something always happens—they fall sick, lose funding, get unexpected responsibilities—and they never make it. No matter how much effort is put in, education never seems to cross a certain line. It becomes a generational ceiling.

In other families, people don’t really succeed in having children. They get married, stay for years, and even when they finally conceive, it ends in stillbirths or repeated miscarriages. It’s emotionally exhausting and spiritually draining. And often, there’s no medical explanation that satisfies the soul.

Some families have a consistent pattern of failed marriages. People either get divorced over and over, or just when they are about to get married, the relationship suddenly ends. You’ll hear things like, “I don’t know what happened. We were fine until two months before the wedding.”

And in some families, this pattern is evident in children having different fathers. Not to offend—but that can sometimes be a silent sign of a deeper generational issue: failed unions, sudden deaths of spouses, abandonment, or unhealed soul wounds passed on across generations. As T.D. Jakes once said, “If you don’t deal with your demons, they go down to your children as inheritance.”

One of the worst patterns I’ve personally seen is in families where, after a fixed number of years, someone just dies. I know someone close whose family lost a member every six years. It became a silent calendar of grief. No matter how healthy or successful someone seemed to be, death came knocking right on schedule.

Now, here’s the truth: ignorance is not an excuse.
These are not random events. They are cycles—spiritual and psychological—and they always have a source.
In most cases, that source lies deep in the past.

I know you’ve been told, “The past is behind you. Just forget it.” But the reality is this: the past will affect you if you ignore it. Patterns—especially the spiritual and generational ones—don’t die with time; they die with intentionality.

Spiritual vs Genetic Patterns🔁

Some of these patterns are genetic—they’re passed down biologically, through DNA and heredity. For example, if a family has a history of diabetes, high blood pressure, or depression, these traits may be inherited. This is science.
But some patterns are not genetic—they are spiritual.
These are the ones that don’t show up on any medical test, but they manifest clearly in how people live, what they suffer, and the invisible limits they can’t seem to break. And in many cases, older people in the family know why they exist, even if they’ve chosen silence over solution.

The Butcher Story – Uncovering the Curse

a true story from my village.

There was a family that didn’t eat meat at all. And I mean, not even a bite. At first glance, it seemed like a choice—maybe they were vegetarians, maybe for health or religion. But if you dig into their history, you’d find that their grandfathers were the most successful butchers in the entire region. They were known. People would walk long distances just to buy meat from their stall at the market.

But one day, during a busy market, a conflict broke out between two relatives over meat. One accused the other of short-changing him in a shared business. Words escalated. Then came threats. Eventually, in a bid to “bring peace,” both families visited a local elder. To settle the dispute, they were told to swear an oath—that from that day forward, no one in their bloodline would ever eat, sell, or touch meat again. This was done with rituals, witnessed by the community, and sealed by ancestral curses.

Fast forward decades later: generations grew up in that family without ever knowing why they didn’t eat meat. It just became “our family doesn’t do meat.”
No one asked questions. But the consequences didn’t stop at food.
Their family business collapsed. Other forms of livelihood failed. Some tried to secretly open meat-related businesses but fell ill, lost everything, or suffered unusual misfortunes.

Why? Because the pattern wasn’t broken—it was inherited.
Until you confront the root, you cannot change the fruit.

This is why it’s important to ask questions. To dig into your past. To go beyond what’s normal and investigate what’s been normalized. Because what’s normal to your family might be abnormal to destiny.

The Human Design – Spirit First

As a human being, you exist in three parts: the body, the mind, and the soul (spirit).
They must work in harmony for you to live fully.

Your body is governed by your mind. In the mind are thoughts. These thoughts give birth to desires—and those desires originate from the soul. When a desire matures, it sends a signal to the body to take action and fulfill it.

This is why scripture says, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7).
Your body does what your soul believes and your mind permits. That’s why transformation begins in the mind and healing begins in the spirit.

(I’ll explain this more in the next article.)

You Are a Spirit in a Body

Now let this sink in: Life is spiritual.

You are not a body with a spirit—you are a spirit living inside a body. You are a walking spirit on a physical journey.

When you are born, by default, you are meant to be a saviour. Every new generation is designed to be a light—stronger, more awake, more aware.
You are not just a continuation; you are a correction. A chance to break what has been broken for too long.

If you’re keen enough, you’ll notice the patterns that exist in your life.
And once you notice them—don’t be ignorant.
Decide to break them.

Because you can.
Because someone must.
Because healing starts with awareness, but transformation starts with decisions.


How Do We Break These Patterns?

What patterns or cycles do you think exist in your life?

How have you managed to break existing patterns in your life?

To be continued…