We all have road signs in our lives. Lines that tell us to Go and lines that tell us to Stop. Whether we read them and believe them it’s up to us. I guess that’s why some of us have fallen and can’t get up. Sometimes we keep our eyes wide open. Everything is good. Everything is fine. People keep living. People keep dying. Life is all sweet. Love comes and loves goes. Heartbreak after heartbreak and the list keeps growing. We get used to it. And it reaches a point when nothing really matters. Not even our conscience. Not even feeling guilt.
A time comes you just feel it’s a normal thing to be in grief 24/7. It feels normal to have people toy around with your emotions. I mean it becomes usual getting crushed on yesterday, being loved today, going for a date tomorrow and a heart-break follows the day after tomorrow. The sequence goes on and on. Day by day. Year after year. It becoming a lifestyle to say ‘ I expected it’. Your list grows into a variety of Dark skinned, Light skin, Chocolate, Dark, Short, Tall and the confused ones and life goes on without priorities. You can’t even think straight on whom you want and how they need to be like so you end up You settling at ‘You Only live Once’ and end up becoming worn out. To the guys you don’t even worry about being smart anymore, you become bushy all over and hygiene isn’t your thing anymore. Girls become an object you use and dump anytime and it feels okay. To the ladies your physique doesn’t matter. You ‘give up yourself’ and become saggy all over. People think you’re aging yet it’s your negligence. and nothing matters to you. You’re getting me well ain’t you? Then moments comes when you realize you’ve lost your taste. You don’t even know what matters to you. Everything is good enough.
People will walk away from you. And you won’t be shocked because it’s a trend in your life. Their excuses won’t match your understanding, their ego won’t fit your patience. But after sometime loneliness creeps in and you get back to the same square of begging them to stay. No way! ‘Stop begging people to stay. If people walk out of you -let’em walk’. I know it’s hard enough and you’ll be asking,
“How will I manage?”
“How will I survive on my own?”
“I’ll die a lonely life?”
No! You can’t die and even if you feel like you will, you need Courage. Courage to begin living a new life. Courage to know who you are. It’s always clear that unless you lose site of the shore, you can never gain courage to sail in the ocean.
‘Even when life takes another form and it’s all broken into pieces, grab onto the piece that you got left and hold on’. You need to focus on your pieces. Pic them up make good out of it. You don’t need perfection to be fit for a long-term love. You don’t need a big ass to be hot. You don’t need tattoos and abs to find love. Nothing is meant to last, we choose to keep them long. Nothing really comes to stay.
Don’t be carried away by every compliment and fall for the wrong person. Don’t be too thrilled by daily hugs and uncountable dates. You need to keep your priorities straight. Know your taste and be capable of picturing what you need even before you have it. That’s what it takes to avoid heart breaks. Don’t fall for the first hiccup- wait for the next one to know it’s not fake.
So before I leave ‘Stop focusing on what you lost – Start living on what is left.’
Xoxo
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