Many are the times that we find ourselves in the crossroads of how to keep our relationships sailing till the ultimatum of ‘marriage’.Some people say,

‘i am just having fun and enjoying my youth, marriage comes after 20’s.

Well you might be right on that because it’s your own life and no one needs to control it.But ever asked yourself how many people mess you up on the way? And if you are a guy,the many hearts you will break before then? Girls break hearts too though countable times.First of all I’d tell you as a love affairs follower: Don’t ever love someone just because you want them, Love them because you feel it they are more than enough. Ok! I know you didn’t get that right and if I repeat it you won’t then try to get this,

‘lOVE isn’t the only thing that matters in life but apparently it is the only thing that makes us good people, just by how we care and treat people tells a lot about who we are.’ #Foodforthought.

Let that sink deep.So whenever you get yourself into something like love, then be prepared to commit yourself fully.And if by any chance your relationship isn’t focused on ending at tying the knot, my friend quit it as soon as possible because that’s violation of love itself.I know that shocks you but if you can’t swallow your pride and here me, you’ll always keep on counting ‘exes’,heartbreak and that will make you inferior into ever-loving someone strongly.

On the contrary with the legalisation of same-sex marriage,things have gotten sore especially to we writers of articles based on love,relationships,breakups and marriage because we focus on love based on opposite sex.However not to say much on that,same rules apply irrespective of whatever bond.Love comes before anything else.Chapter closed.

Talking of Love not Lust, you’ve probably heard of someone break up with their spouse because of intimacy issues,sleepover and even being denied kisses.You all hear this things even in the media.Right? Well pay attention and if you are a victim I’ve got your back.I’m not talking of marriage case am actually basing my article to the guys who are dating, courting, in a relationship or engaged. To precise guys who have boyfie, girlfie,  bae, boo, panda, munchkins, pookies, swee or even a fiance or a fiancée but still don’t know the burden of paying dowry. Hahahaha!

It is very important to know that being in a relationship or even an engagement is far much different from being in a marriage.And when i say far much, then just keep sinking  it that the two are two different things.A relationship is based on so many foundations, first you become a friend to someone, you guys graduate into more than just friends, then you begin to court one another, courting come in various packages but no matter what,you stick to the rule of keeping respect.It is in courting where one feels like yeah!..i think he/she is “More than enough”.Then finally that grabs you into dating or just to cut the formalities, a relationship.

Now lemme ask, Do you think you are on the right track?Or you just woke up one day met someone, boom fell in love at first sight  and life goes on?…I think you have the answer to youself.However whichever the case as i always say. “….matters of the heart can never complicated..” what I mean is, don’t let time deceive you that simply because you’ve known someone for a longer time they are good enough for you.Not really.You might meet someone in a few minutes and your love  life changes completely..Yeah it happens.That’s what flames of love do,  they consume things around them.

I hope I have clarified that courting,dating, relationships and engagements are  a threshold to marriage and therefore nothing should be done inappropriately. And one important tip, marriage is based on laws and at times traditions and customs  of the land unlike relationships which sharpen us into marriage.In relationships people break up whenever they feel like,one might get into more than five relationships in a year but for divorce to happen, legal proceedings are followed and if at all there is negligence of  responsibility, one might suffer a jail term.

So you leave someone because he/ she denies you……………………………….

To be continued