Before you choose the red flags

Instead of seeing red flags in your partner and backing off,
Shape them to the person you want them to be. And yes! You can’t change a whole adult but you can tell them your likes, interests and things that turn you off. Am not saying twill be easy but for partners who want things to work, there will be always a point of equilibrium. A point where both of you meet in agreement. Create a capacity of pointing out red flags without making your partner feel less. Be so connected to a point that, correcting your partner won’t come out as “being jugdy.”

There are days you will feel like walking away. And Yes! maybe to your own judgement it’s the right thing to do – but before you do that it’s important to ask yourself sober questions.

“If I walk away today does my partner see it worth it as I see it from my angle too?”

“Am I the only one who wants to walk away or both of us feel better off each other?”

“Does this involve just ‘Us’ or there’s a third-party
?”

“Am I walking away because I want this to work and it’s not or because I don’t want it to work?”

These are so many questions to consider before making an ultimate decision. And now back to where I began, “Instead of seeing red flags in your partner and backing off” – Ask yourself if you addressed the red flags and did they try changing.
Yours Truly
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